When you’re 21, and you look 16, and you walk up to the CVS counter with a pregnancy test you’re bound to get stares.
But they stare even more when you look happy about it.Now I know there are plenty of good reasons why you wouldn’t look particularly happy about it, even within marriage. My husband and I are learning how to grocery shop for two people on a budget. Add in diapers and frequent doctor’s visits and life surely wouldn’t get any easier. No. Babies certainly don’t make life easier.
So why in the world would we look happy about it?
The most frequent concern ever raised to me regarding my early marriage, or now my acceptance of the possibility of early pregnancy, is not usually something concrete and practical like finances or experience with children or a steady job.
It’s the fact that my husband and I are young. And when you’re young, you need to live. When you’re young, you shouldn’t settle down. You ought to be traveling the world, discovering yourself, discovering ideas and new friends and new places. You should be having adventures. Doing daring things. Taking chances. Taking risks. As the song goes,
We are young– so let’s set the world on fire.
And I feel that vibe when that song comes on. And I turn it louder. And louder. And louder.
But here’s what I don’t understand. We can climb all the buildings we want, we can go to different countries and meet new people, start fundraisers, protest, drink, dance, dance on tables but the greatest adventure of all always seems to come back to love. I mean, the singer in that song is referring to one thing in particular that fulfills that youthful burning. It’s his somebody. He may set the world on fire in all sorts of ways, but he can’t ever set it on fire quite like he can with the one he loves. We all know that the greatest adventure we can have is in love, and it’s what we, the young, all want. In the end, I want someone to carry me home tonight.
What are your thoughts on early marriage? What about early childbearing?
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