Yes, I have spent time talking with God about my expectations in life and his greater story. I am fully convinced that no relationship will ever be a bed of roses and that there are worse things than being unmarried. And I am very watchful (as are my mentor and accountability partner) that my frustration with this one aspect of my life does not turn into doubting God’s character.

I would catagorize myself as “ready for the next change in my life” rather than “desparate”. Desparation looks more like panic or online dating . . . ;-p

Everyone has had different experiences with folks giving them input – whether they are content, or desperate, getting good advice, or being told to fake-it, or whatever, this question really addresses all the different issues and helps to bring the relationship and conversation back to Christ.

There’s nothing wrong with that desire. And it’s good that you’re honest about it. But have you ever spent time with God and asked Him what your expectations are concerning marriage vs. what He says/has told you? This is not to say that marriage has its blessings and benefits.

And the only false dichotomy that comes up is the one that people who don’t know how to respond to a single’s desire for relationship(or are projecting their answers onto you). You should just point blank ask them, “Are you saying this because you’re tired of hearing me talk about this and you don’t know how to help/don’t know what to say, or because you see something in my behavior that’s hindering my ability to enter into a healthy, God honoring relationship?”