Comments on: Understanding and Overcoming a Porn Struggle http://lodge.marrywell.org/2010/02/understanding-and-overcoming-a-porn-struggle/ a better path to marriage Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:24:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: SilverFire http://lodge.marrywell.org/2010/02/understanding-and-overcoming-a-porn-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1255 SilverFire Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:35:18 +0000 http://lodge.marrywell.org/?p=323#comment-1255 Probably the best book I've ever read on this is "Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time." It gives step-by-step guidance on how to keep yourself pure. That is crucial for overcoming. Porn preys on the lonely, the intelligent, and the not-as-social. Too often fellow believers treat the porn addict worse than murderers, because they don't understand how it works, nor the damage it causes to a guy's identity. Christians who fall into porn are not only outcast from the world, but outcast from the church; they are much like the abused, trying to cover up their bruises but hoping someone will notice and be able to relate to them... Probably the best book I’ve ever read on this is “Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time.” It gives step-by-step guidance on how to keep yourself pure. That is crucial for overcoming.

Porn preys on the lonely, the intelligent, and the not-as-social. Too often fellow believers treat the porn addict worse than murderers, because they don’t understand how it works, nor the damage it causes to a guy’s identity.

Christians who fall into porn are not only outcast from the world, but outcast from the church; they are much like the abused, trying to cover up their bruises but hoping someone will notice and be able to relate to them…

]]> By: aliu http://lodge.marrywell.org/2010/02/understanding-and-overcoming-a-porn-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1221 aliu Thu, 25 Feb 2010 08:16:14 +0000 http://lodge.marrywell.org/?p=323#comment-1221 Along with that, a resource from Mark Driscoll: http://relit.org/porn_again_christian/ Along with that, a resource from Mark Driscoll:

http://relit.org/porn_again_christian/

]]> By: Joanna http://lodge.marrywell.org/2010/02/understanding-and-overcoming-a-porn-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1189 Joanna Tue, 23 Feb 2010 22:08:14 +0000 http://lodge.marrywell.org/?p=323#comment-1189 There's also a free e-book written by Tim Challies, a Christian blogger, on overcoming porn. The title is called "Sexual Detox" and it can be found at www.challies.com. There’s also a free e-book written by Tim Challies, a Christian blogger, on overcoming porn. The title is called “Sexual Detox” and it can be found at http://www.challies.com.

]]> By: mhoover http://lodge.marrywell.org/2010/02/understanding-and-overcoming-a-porn-struggle/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 mhoover Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:20:11 +0000 http://lodge.marrywell.org/?p=323#comment-1182 Thanks for posting these articles on a sensitive subject. They should be read by all the men here. I would add a few things: The key step in dealing with and breaking bondage in this area is to call it what is. Looking at pornography is wickedness. There are many ways that the world tries to get us to justify this sin ("if I was only married...", "I'm not looking at the really bad stuff..." etc). But you need to know that your soul is in danger while you mess around with it. You need to name it for what is before the Lord. Read Proverbs 5 and ask yourself whether you have hated discipline and been ensnared by the cords of your sin. And then you need to own it to someone else who can provide REAL accountability. Someone who won't just pray for you and listen, but will really hold you to account. Someone that will help you immediately understand the gravity of the situation. Like your mother. Or an elder or pastor at church. You'll know you're serious about dealing with this if you can do these two things. Sin thrives in the dark, and owning it before the Lord and before other people will shine a lot of light that it won't be able to survive. And remember that the Lord is willing and able to take anyone out of this and put him back together again. God bless. Thanks for posting these articles on a sensitive subject. They should be read by all the men here. I would add a few things:

The key step in dealing with and breaking bondage in this area is to call it what is. Looking at pornography is wickedness. There are many ways that the world tries to get us to justify this sin (“if I was only married…”, “I’m not looking at the really bad stuff…” etc). But you need to know that your soul is in danger while you mess around with it. You need to name it for what is before the Lord. Read Proverbs 5 and ask yourself whether you have hated discipline and been ensnared by the cords of your sin.

And then you need to own it to someone else who can provide REAL accountability. Someone who won’t just pray for you and listen, but will really hold you to account. Someone that will help you immediately understand the gravity of the situation. Like your mother. Or an elder or pastor at church.

You’ll know you’re serious about dealing with this if you can do these two things. Sin thrives in the dark, and owning it before the Lord and before other people will shine a lot of light that it won’t be able to survive. And remember that the Lord is willing and able to take anyone out of this and put him back together again. God bless.

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