I get what the Preparing stage of MW is about. I’m still not clear on what differentiates the Connecting stage, other than expressing that one is ready to connect. Does one wait till one has a someone with whom one is connecting? Or does one change the status to “Connecting” even when no one is initiating with him/her?

This applies to MILESTONE #4: Getting Married.

Invest time to meet potential spouses, because until you do, you really do not know who they are.

ACTION CHALLENGE: Marry Well Midwest Meet Up, In Wheaton, March 6: 11-3 for details ask Jennifer (chicago).

So one minute they’re doing things to help it happen as Candice puts it, the next they’re dropping the idea altogether and saying I’m going to focus on what the Lord would have me to do as a single. True but that should already be a fact in your life not one that a desire to marry now hinders.

OR join the site because they know they’d like to marry but who knows when so let’s go for the lifetime membership:) and stay in a constant state of preparing or even connecting but finding one reason or another not to go any further than that.

So saying all that to say yes it can apply even on a site full of people that desire marriage. But also true that we should think about those friends we know and pass it along to them. And I think it is important to note as a body of believers it’s not a one size fit all sort of thing where everything that is shared via a fellow believer is going to apply to me or will agree with where God has me, yet it doesn’t suddenly make it wrong. Therefore we have to discern these things okay this isn’t where I am, these aren’t my experiences can’t even imagine them but it’s good to know that there are individuals out there that believe this and therefore I can use this article as a tool if every I find someone in my life who thinks this way. And also as been said here already, discernment of what is or what isn’t biblical based on our own ability to discern rather a specific scripture is referenced or not. Hmmm not the way I would have went about writing this but I can see where scripture is applied in this.

Lastly, My pastor’s wife text me about coming to a marriage ministry at my church last night. And up to the point of actually going, I really really really didn’t want to go. Because it’s primarily geared to couples, and it does get to a point of you know I don’t want to hear or think about marriage sometimes I don’t have need to participate in everything just because I desire to marry. But I know that even if not for my sake, it could be beneficial to someone else if I were to go, especially married couples I’ve talked to about coming. So I went and it was a blessing and I realized it is a nice way for someone like myself who desires marriage to learn and hear of the experiences that those already married goes through. They did skits and everything on the wrong way to do things and the biblical way to handle things it was quite edifying. But rather or not any of what I heard last night is applied to my life as a married person or not it was still beneficial and even as a single believer, I learned much in dealing with some relationships that has been causing some grief, the right way to approach it.

Neither state is the most holy state. Neither is the cure to all life’s ails.

As many have stated, most of us on this site desire to be married, and so this article may be preaching to the choir. But “choir”, let’s make sure that we’re all living our segment of singleness so that 1 Cor. 7:32-34 may be true of us. Whether the gift of marriage is ever given or not, may God be able to look at us and say, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”