Pastor Matt Chandler from The Village Church in Dallas, Texas has a message for single women and men about marriage. He says women shouldn’t think pretending to be content will produce a husband and men shouldn’t think God will drop a wife in his lap taking action.

A virgin is starting to wonder about the sexual past of the Christian man she’s dating. Should she ask him if he’s been with other women or had a problem with pornography?

Many women believe in the notion that to marry a man without certain traits or ambitions would be settling. And in their minds, settling is bad. But maybe we’re looking at “settling” the wrong way.

What draws a man to marriage? What keeps him away? Where does marriage fit into a man’s Christian walk and how does he marry well if he hasn’t seen good modeling?

Pornography miseducates men and women about relationships, love, sex and marriage, and it saps vital energy from the pursuit, cultivation and growth of healthy relationships.